I have for long held to the belief that my emotions should be directly under my control. And as inspired by the letters of Paul the Apostle, I choose not to be mastered by my feelings.
Not because they are bad and disgusting. More than anything, they are in themselves natural and normal to have. But, as we all know, if left to run wild, unchecked, we become our worst selves.
The comparison game is a deep hole that can trap us forever. We must avoid it and be courageous enough to be ourselves even if we appear starkly different and unpopular.
So in place of comparing ourselves with others and feeling inadequate, let’s pour out our hearts into unearthing better versions of who we are. For the truth is, there’s something incredibly special about YOU.
Out of sheer frustration I once broke my kitchen window glass with my bare hands – it was a particularly sharp and sudden punch, if I remember correctly.
I was mad over finding out too late that a certain new and highly recommended syrup that I had used already didn’t do very well if kept in the refrigerator… because if mixed with the moisture generated in the cold box it turns watery and thereby affecting the integrity of the whipped cream frosting.
In this case, the frosting had become something like a mudslide. The once gorgeous cake had become ugly and clearly unpresentable for the wife of my client, and it was already time to send the cake out.
Inspired by the popular and ongoing argument over whether Love is enough or just bullshit, I thought it apt to say a few things in defense of Love.
And for the sake of understanding it is important to note my assertions are based on the meaning of Love having more to do with intentionality, choice and maturity than it has to do with our feelings and whatever we may want when we say “I love you”.
So, to the Crux of the matter…
Granted, loving as we should (sacrificially and purposefully) does not necessary guarantee a successful blisful romantic relationship all by itself.
Regardless of how lofty the intentions to make the other person happy, it must often require the agreement of both parties to make it work. A matter of choice, so to speak, either to accept or spurn the Love shared.
Lately, I have been thinking about the idea of getting better and advancing oneself. I realized, again and again, the irrefutable fact that making good decisions and following through with them, sometimes, must require some kind of deliberate preparation. The type necessary to equip us for the attainment of the goals those decisions point to.
Some goals just need a little a bit more attention than just the opportunity of merely lightning up in our heads. From experience, it is quite easy to make decisions in a state of high ecstasy. But afterward, when the euphoria disappears, and we settle into our normal everyday routine, we often find ourselves challenged and unable to execute the determined objective.