Peter Parker had Tony Stark; I had Stephen Donaldson, Dale Carnegie & James Allen

tumblr_p89rl5jtvc1rwseq6o1_r1_1280.pngI have often found myself wishing someone had shared with me very early on the principles and instructions for life that I now share with my young friends who are just now having a go at life.

I had no father figure growing up. Though mum did her best in raising me and sending me to school, we never really talked much about preparing for life. Except, that I should be wary of 3 things: money, women, and food.

Having being raised alone by a single mum who had to spend a lot of time working to make ends meet, there was no particular mentor present in my life. Even my teachers weren’t that much interested in the little timid boy that I was growing up. I guess it was only Mr. Ogala, my primary school tutor, who cared, somewhat enthusiastically, about my prospects in the arts. Ironically, I didn’t like the fine arts that much.

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Is Love Really Enough?

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Inspired by the ongoing argument over whether Love is enough or not, I thought it cool to say a few things in defense of Love.

And for the sake of understanding, it is important to note my assertions are based on Love having more to do with intentionality than it has to do with our feelings and whatever one may want when they say “I love you”.

So, to the Crux of the matter…

Granted, loving as we should doesn’t necessarily guarantee a successful blissful romantic relationship all by itself.

Regardless of how lofty the intentions to make the other person happy, it must often require the agreement of both parties to make it work. A matter of choice, so to speak, either to accept or spurn the Love shared.

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A Piece of Heaven On Earth

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Quite early in my life, I had the good fortune of knowing enough to value Love above all other things. It has always been my opinion that true fulfillment lies primarily in our relationships, not in our jobs or careers or earthly accomplishments.

So in that mindset, I had continually committed myself to the business of learning all that may aid me in becoming more effective and successful in loving people. Particularly, I had pursued the vision of a glorious love life. With the help of scriptures, I had come to understand that selfless love was the key to having a piece of heaven on earth in my relationship.

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Crazy In Love With Scandal…

Just the other day, my dear friend Iris, opened up to me about why she couldn’t bear watching certain TV shows for their flagrant display of adultery.

Regardless of how popular they’d become, Scandal and Power seemed topmost on her list considering how many times she picked on those two.

She was resolutely unyielding in accepting the idea that it is now “modern” to break your marriage vows, especially when it makes you happier – giving you a chance at a truer and more exhilarating relationship with somebody else, who’s supposedly better and more compatible than your once precious and unequaled significant other.

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How Do We Go About Managing Our Sexual Drive After Premarital Sex?

Sunday evenings are usually insightful, engaging, and entertaining, and the last Home Fellowship meeting was no exception. The outline for the day was about the interestingly controversial topic of SEX, with the title “Managing Your Sexual Drive” to boot.

The time had come again for us to painfully tackle questions pertaining to our sexuality. I could only imagine how uncomfortable some of us may have been discussing such a subject openly, especially within the holy ambiance of Church. But as always we had to deal regardless of our sensibilities, mainly because of the unavoidable importance of sex in our individual lives and relationships.

As a consequence, I have always held the view that in addressing sensitive life issues, we must endeavor to be honest and practical in our approach: meaning, I don’t want you to just preach to me but show me the “how-to-do”.

As an example, one of my favorite pieces of advice from the Word is “Flee from temptation.” It is so unashamedly stark and down-to-earth as if saying, “dude, run for your effing life and forget trying to be Superman!”

FLEE…!

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