Inspired by the popular and ongoing argument over whether Love is enough or just bullshit, I thought it apt to say a few things in defense of Love.
And for the sake of understanding it is important to note my assertions are based on the meaning of Love having more to do with intentionality, choice and maturity than it has to do with our feelings and whatever we may want when we say “I love you”.
So, to the Crux of the matter…
Granted, loving as we should (sacrificially and purposefully) does not necessary guarantee a successful blisful romantic relationship all by itself.
Regardless of how lofty the intentions to make the other person happy, it must often require the agreement of both parties to make it work. A matter of choice, so to speak, either to accept or spurn the Love shared.
So, in the real world, it doesn’t matter how undying Cecilia’s commitment is to Robert, if He rejects the Love shown for whatever reason, the relationship is as good as dead.
It doesn’t mean Love failed or wasn’t sufficient, for Love had nothing to do with it. However, it does mean the people involved may have failed in availing themselves of all the goodness possible in a relationship founded on that Love that is intentional, patient, kind, trusting and for the most part and above all, selfless.
Another thing is, if compatiblity is statisfied on all levels important to both parties, Love is powerful enough to ensure the success of that relationship as long as it is welcomed, respected, nurtured and protected by the two involved.
Hence, we cannot overemphasize the humbling fact that it does actually take two to tango. And I do believe that before venturing out into the relationship realm, it is key that both man and woman confirm that they are on the same page with giving and accepting each other’s affection, commitment and loyalty.
For only on such solid grounds will a relationship stand the chance of lasting in bliss and fulfilment of its purpose.