Peter Parker had Tony Stark; I had Stephen Donaldson, Dale Carnegie & James Allen

tumblr_p89rl5jtvc1rwseq6o1_r1_1280.pngI have often found myself wishing someone had shared with me very early on the principles and instructions for life that I now share with my young friends who are just now having a go at life.

I had no father figure growing up. Though mum did her best in raising me and sending me to school, we never really talked much about preparing for life. Except, that I should be wary of 3 things: money, women, and food.

Having being raised alone by a single mum who had to spend a lot of time working to make ends meet, there was no particular mentor present in my life. Even my teachers weren’t that much interested in the little timid boy that I was. I guess it was only Mr. Ogala, my primary school tutor, who cared, somewhat enthusiastically, about my prospects in the arts. Ironically, I didn’t like the fine arts that much.

So it was by chance I got influenced by men older and wiser than I was. At the age of 21, I stumbled on one of Stephen Donaldson’s The Chronicles of Thomas Covenant book series, Lord Fouls Bane. Though it was a high fantasy novel, its tale of perseverance and courage ignited my interest in personal development for the very first time, and as a byproduct, a love for reading.  In addition, authors and thinkers like Dale Carnegie and James Allen did a whole lot more in strengthening my resolve to becoming a better human being.

Then came the Bible with its instructions on Love and excellence: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast…”  With such guidance, I felt propelled to cultivating good relationships and character. I can only imagine what my life would have become without these serendipitous events that led me, I believe, on the good path.

That’s why I am so grateful for my life, and even if I wished I had good influences right from the moment I began to form a thought on life, I am still happy I got the chance, when I did, to learn from the excellent sources that came my way. For without them, I am pretty sure I would have ended up in some proverbial gutter.

Photo Credit: Stephanie Garcia


6 thoughts on “Peter Parker had Tony Stark; I had Stephen Donaldson, Dale Carnegie & James Allen

  1. Thanks for sharing. I think what’s more important is seeking out that mentoring figure once a person has realized there isn’t one present in their life. It really is about intentionality, I think, and not simply just waiting for a mentor to take interest in you. Taking initiative is important in life. Glad to see you found your way to your Tonys. lol.

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    1. You are welcome. Thanks for stopping by😊. Yes to intentionality! And I believe that extends to Mentors too – looking out for those who haven’t yet realized the good in having positive influences in their lives.

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  2. A great mum you got there. I’m sure she is proud of the great man you have become. Yes sometimes we need extra direction outside our homes and guess what you found your in books. I’m sure even if mum didn’t know you needed that, she would still work to make these books available at your disposal.


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